Breaking the Imposter Syndrome Chain: My Story of Conquering Self-Doubt

Imposter Syndrome is a nightmare and I suffered from it for a long time, and in fact, still do on occasion. not so much when I’m on my own probably more so now when I have to go out and meet large groups, network or mix in a professional setting. My mouth gets dry, I try and lurk on the outskirts of groups and try and look busy. Getting rejected by people, when you try to start a conversation and the list goes on.

However, there are some tricks you can try to conquer it and also, help people you meet when you recognise the symptoms in them.

Be kind to yourself and others and get to work banishing it or at least try and manage it effectively!

#gamingboardroom Jon Bruford Greg Saint #impostersyndrome

P.S. Just thought I’d add that I have that nervous feeling in my stomach now asking myself, is this article good enough and will it make a difference?
It can strike at any time I guess!

I wanted to share a personal story with you, one that many of you may relate to. It’s about a time when I felt like a stranger in my own life, a fraud waiting to be found out. This story is about my encounter with imposter syndrome and my journey to overcome it.

I remember the first time I got promoted to a managerial role. I felt over the moon. But as the days passed, a sense of dread began creeping in. I found myself constantly questioning, “Do I really deserve this?” or “Am I truly good enough?” Despite my 30 years of experience, I felt like a fraud, waiting for the moment someone would ‘discover’ my incompetence.

If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone. Imposter Syndrome can hit anyone, regardless of their level of success. It’s that insidious whisper of self-doubt that undermines your accomplishments and amplifies your fears. But, rest assured, it’s a battle you can win. Here’s how I did it and hopefully some of these tips could work for you too:

Step 1: Acknowledging the Problem

Understanding that what I was experiencing had a name – imposter syndrome – was the first step towards overcoming it. This isn’t about being incompetent; it’s about feeling incompetent, despite evidence to the contrary.

Step 2: Sharing My Feelings

I started talking about my feelings with trusted colleagues, mentors, and friends. Expressing my fears, rather than bottling them up, was a liberating experience. To my surprise, many had similar experiences to share, which made me feel less alone.

Step 3: Maintaining an Achievement Log

To combat negative self-talk, I started documenting my accomplishments, big and small, in an achievement log. Anytime self-doubt would creep in, I would refer back to this log, reminding myself of the value I bring.

Step 4: Cultivating a Growth Mindset

I shifted my thinking to embrace mistakes as learning opportunities, reminding myself that it’s okay not to know everything. I started to replace “I can’t do this” with “I can’t do this yet.”

Step 5: Seeking Professional Help

When self-doubt seemed overwhelming, I sought help from a mentor. Their unbiased perspective and professional guidance provided valuable tools to manage my imposter syndrome.

Remember, these steps are not a magic wand. They require patience and perseverance. And the journey looks different for everyone, so adapt these steps to suit your needs.

Today, I can confidently say I have a healthier relationship with my self-image and accomplishments. Does that mean I never doubt myself? Of course not. I still have moments of self-doubt, but now I have the tools to handle them effectively.

Let’s create an open space to discuss our struggles with imposter syndrome. If you’ve ever felt like a fraud in your own success, I invite you to share your experiences below. Let’s create a network of support, reminding each other that it’s okay to have doubts and that it’s more than okay to seek help.

Remember, you’re more capable than you think, and it’s time you start believing in yourself.